Section 8
Chapter 8 — Too Much Familiarity explained simply
The Imitation of Christ by Thomas à Kempis
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Of the danger of too much Open not thine heart to every man, but deal with one who is wise and feareth God. Be seldom with the young and with strangers. Be not a flatterer of the rich; nor willingly seek the society of the great. Let thy company be the humble and the simple, the devout and the gentle, and let thy...
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CHAPTER VIII
Of the danger of too much
Open not thine heart to every man, but deal with one who is wise and
feareth God. Be seldom with the young and with strangers. Be not a
flatterer of the rich; nor willingly seek the society of the great. Let
thy company be the humble and the simple, the devout and the gentle,
and let thy discourse be concerning things which edify. Be not familiar
with any woman, but commend all good women alike unto God. Choose for
thy companions God and His Angels only, and flee from the notice of
men.
2. We must love all men, but not make close companions of all. It
sometimes falleth out that one who is unknown to us is highly regarded
through good report of him, whose actual person is nevertheless
unpleasing to those who behold it. We sometimes think to please others
by our intimacy, and forthwith displease them the more by the
faultiness of character which they perceive in us.
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Simple English explanation
This chapter gives monastic advice about guarding conversation and companionship. Its broader point is that not every relationship helps the soul.
1-minute summary
Chapter 8 warns that careless closeness and social chasing can distract from wisdom. Choose companions who make you better.
Key takeaways
- Not every social circle is healthy.
- Flattery and status-seeking can corrupt judgment.
- Good counsel matters.
- Boundaries can protect attention.
Modern example
A person trying to change habits may need distance from friends who constantly pull them back into the old pattern.
For kids
Choose friends who help you become better.